Another Issue

(continued from previous post dated 16th August '06)
Valentine's Day ushered in feelings of closeness, union of the spirit
and bare-all emotions. I felt I could open up in a way I had never
done before and share my private thoughts to celebrate these
moments of mutual ecstasy.


ash - If I held a dictionary, wings out and upside down, and shook
the words free as if emptying a drawer; and all of those words lay at
my disposal; it would be hard to find words with such eloquence or
grace as those we say in silent embrace, with the touch of a hand,
or in the sweet supple utterance of the three little words we've come
to know so well: I love you.
Thank you for enriching my life with your presence; for being there
in your own unique way and for being my friend. huggs



kband - Whenever you are away for such a long time, the hydra-
headed monster called anxiety keeps rearing up inside my head. I
quash it with thoughts about your sprightly attitude, tenacious
nature and above all the willpower to overcome the toughest odds
- all melting into ur rainbow heart! Hope you are soaring the skies,
my love.
We are doing well with bulk of our time and plans being occupied
with the progress our daughter is making in life. She appears in her
term exams beginning this week and before we know it, she'd
already be in 3rd standard! However, she feels a bit lonely at times,
since my wife and I are away for much of the day. Though there are
numerous friends for company, she has confided in me that she'd
love to have a baby sister to share her dolls with :-) Now this is
something which has kept causing pinpricks as conventional wisdom
advocates a two-child norm in our families. I had been steadfastly
refusing this logic, guided entirely by instinct which made me feel
that channelising all our resources (which is definitely not in
abundance) would help get our princess the best in life. Though
I've tried to explain in the best way I can that rocking the boat
could prove infructuous, my better half does not agree, for quite
obvious reasons (which i suspect could also have something to do
with the earlier generation's stereotypical desires). So much so,
that she frequently gets depressed these days.
So here I am at the threshold of an important decision in my life.
Sharing this with you, for your valued comments and suggestions,
if u have any. And hoping for the best....



ash - Once again I'm on a slow run with mails. I know you'll bear
with me as always. My excuse ths time is I'm working short hrs
until 3. Gotta make it to the temple for prayers and programs. Its
the month of moharram btw which brings along with it a feeling of
great sadness and sorrow in the heart of every Muslim. We
commemorate Imam Hussain's victory in martyrdom and express
grief for the the first 10 days, (10th day being the day of martydom).
Well other than gaining some piety points, Ive been working a little
too hard on my web project. Now that they hired a temp assistant
for me to ease my load, it feels nice to meet the schedules on time.
Oh this gal I hired is so dedicated and fast, I'm almost out of
assignments for her :)
Son is doing just good. He turned 3 on 15th. We had a lil party
organized at Jeepers - an indoor family entertainment spot. It
was a day of celebration, gifts, fun rides, kids, and denial. Yes,
denial. he refused to eat a single crumb from his birthday cake
that he so fondly enjoyed blowing candles and cutting through.
And oh he wanted a horsie on the cake so we had to go by the
modern ways. You simply bring in a photograph, and, through the
magic of technology, its somehow transformed into a cake. Hubby
created a composite image on the computer, brought it to the local
grocer, and presto! One "horsie cake" for him.. His entry into the
new world called school is somewhat delayed as we are still working
on for the most appropriate services for him offered at the public
schools in our county. I marked my calendar for mid march, now
lets see if things go that smooth. That pretty much sums up what
I've been upto off late - And now my comments on ur imp issue.....
First of all, thanks dearie for sharing your life with me. I feel very
eminently honored that you care for my opinions abt ur most imp
decisions. There are times I place myself in the same set of thoughts
and questions about my life, I barely can think straight. I've
borrowed some time on this play :)I understand your dilemma, but
unfortunately there's no easy solution to this problem. Your
insufficient resources, as you mention is a common concern of
prospective second-time parents, but ask yourself does it really
make a big difference for you? Ask your folks around with 2 kids
who are less on finances than you and yet are bringing up 2 kids
decently. Think about your own childhood. You grew up with your
brothers and sisters, right? How did you like growing up that way?
I'm sure this is not the only thing you are worried about. I can
gauge there is more you are thinking - prolly some inner fear in
you. Are you worried that you wont be able to love your second
child as much as your daughter? While this could be an incredibly
common worry, the simple answer is that your capacity to love
your children, no matter how many you have — is infinite. Is labor,
pregnancy and painful delivery your concern? Since your wife is
the one to go through it, leave that decision to her. Consider tough
healthy pregnancy please, I've heard having babies after 35 yrs of
age can sometimes cause fertility problems for a woman or some
risk to the baby. So discuss your intimidating concerns with your
significant other, you'll probably find that even though she's more
gung-ho than you are right now, she shares many of those concerns
with you. Oh and if nothing else works, please talk to God....He'll
help you find peace of mind and grant you strength in problem-
solving and decision making. Good luck sweetheart :)



kband - After a long time, we had a really colourful Holi
celebration this year. Having spent over a year now at our new
apartment, families have started bonding well. So out went some
of the inhibitions as we welcomed the festival with gay abandon,
dance masti, tambola (housie) and community lunch. My inlaws
were with us during this time and they too revelled in the merry
moods. When they went back to Allahabad, where they have
moved recently, our daughter too accompanied them. Before she
begins a new innings in the next class, she wanted to make the
most of the break and for once we couldn't complain. My boss did
though, when I had to ask him for week's leave so that we could
visit Allahabad and get her back. Nevertheless, he relented and
we spent a few days enjoying the holy dip in Sangam (confluence
of the rivers Ganga and Yamuna), paying our obesiance to deities
at Varanasi, Vindhaychal and visit to sundry other places of
historical importance. Returned yesterday with special sweets
(called 'Pera') which my colleagues and boss seemingly enjoyed.
Hope you would enjoy the sweet nothings which i send u in this
mail:-) So, what goes on at NJ and NY?


(to be continued)